Last week, my sister-in-law and her three kids came to visit. It was the highlight of my busy week. We love having visitors and miss living close to family, so it is a real treat when anyone comes to stay. However, this post is going to mainly focus on my niece, Adalyn. Dear, sweet, Adalyn.
Adalyn is 5, which seems like 25 in comparison to Luke. The whole time they were here I was offering to take Adalyn and Audrey (her 7 year old sister) to the park, to the store, or WHEREVER they wanted to go! It seemed so much easier taking these "mature" girls out with me than my usual running down the aisles of the grocery store with Luke screaming while being held under my arm in a football hold.
I've always been puzzled by this one cashier at this particular supermarket in town. You see, s/he is a "Pat," i.e., I can't tell if s/he is a man or woman and it is driving me crazy. I'm not trying to be mean, but I really can't tell. Here are the facts:
1. Ambiguous Name (we'll call shim "Chris")
2. About the height of an average woman.
3. Deep voice.
4. No noticeable facial hair whatsoever.
5. Macho mannerisms.
6. Wears loose fitting clothes, so I can't tell what's going on "upstairs."
7. Short Androgynous Haircut
I have been so puzzled by this mystery that I almost asked one of the baggers once if "Chris" was a man or woman to satisfy my own curiosity. Like I said, I'M NOT TRYING TO BE MEAN, you would want to know too? Wouldn't you?
I ignore her, smile at "Chris", and say, "How are you doing today?" Adalyn says again,
I look at Adalyn with these pleading eyes and quietly say, "Do not talk until I tell you it's okay. " She says, "But - " I interrupt and whisper, "Please, Addie, don't say anything until I tell you it's okay."
I still don't know if "Chris" is a man or a woman, and it probably isn't my business anyway. Really, what difference is it going to make if I find out? Am I planning to set him/her up with a single friend?
I am learning that no matter what age a child may be, there will almost always be challenges when taking them grocery shopping - whether it is throwing an endless temper tantrum (like Luke) or total humiliation (thanks, Addie).